tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9098957950960315986.post4602701977860617761..comments2020-12-21T00:55:40.827-08:00Comments on The Land Of The Loo-Loo's: Feed Back Follow UpMom 4 Kidshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10906174408622921425noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9098957950960315986.post-49923108811050190532009-11-18T10:59:00.558-08:002009-11-18T10:59:00.558-08:00The big pee clean up was not a big deal, we put it...The big pee clean up was not a big deal, we put it all in the washer and that was that. The aftercare had already bagged the wet clothes. They had left her in her sopping wet socks and shoes, ewwww. But I guess they did not have an extra pair of those. So those soaked in a vinegar water bucket over night and then went to the washing machine. None of that was a problem for Miss M. Now that her defiance is much improved, in reality she likes to do work and to clean.<br /><br />The poopy pants are where we have Miss M take the vinegar water bucket and the scrub brush and she scrubs the pants in the tub just before her own bath. We make it a not big deal kind of a situation, "Good job being responsible to clean up your mess sweetie." And we move on to normal routine.<br /><br />Like I said we are a work in progress. :-)Mom 4 Kidshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10906174408622921425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9098957950960315986.post-20506903354996579322009-11-18T10:25:50.088-08:002009-11-18T10:25:50.088-08:00I somehow missed this post, apologies! I'm gla...I somehow missed this post, apologies! I'm glad to hear you guys were able to meet with the teacher and explain your concerns. So as far as the peeing thing -- what happens when you ask her to clean up after herself?Juleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17260044140161891802noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9098957950960315986.post-12429537528583110412009-11-06T08:27:12.061-08:002009-11-06T08:27:12.061-08:00Jeri, that is a wonderful response that you made t...Jeri, that is a wonderful response that you made to the little person from Kazakhstan. So loving and kind yet supporting the attachment to their family by reinforcing where their love belongs. <br /><br />I think it is natural to say "me too" if a child says that to you first. The writing it on a paper just blew me away and I am so glad that Dad and I are on the same page with parenting and especially our little Miss M. He said, "absolutely not is this okay, we have come too far with this child for some no it all armchair analyst to mess things up." I didn't like how things have turned into frowny faces. Make comments on where she needs to improve and practice but frowny face communicates, "I am not happy with YOU." At least I fear it does to Miss M. <br /><br />Oh if only you were Miss M teacher! Glorious!<br /><br />We are so blessed with Mr. C's teacher she is absolutely wonderful. He has extreme fears regarding bugs, spiders especially. The class does a Spanish language enrichment program on Wednesday. Long story short when we let her know that some visual images in the program were scaring him and so he did not want to go to school on Wednesdays she had him go to another class during that time. He draws in the other class (which is a 2nd grade class) and they make a big deal about what an artist he is. In addition I think we have his 2nd grade teacher worked out because she loves him!<br /><br />All we had requested was that he move to the back of the class and face away from the program. This is a much better option for Mr. C and his teacher knew that.Mom 4 Kidshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10906174408622921425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9098957950960315986.post-62542897647277239432009-11-06T05:14:07.141-08:002009-11-06T05:14:07.141-08:00I had just come back from NY and our disastrous &q...I had just come back from NY and our disastrous "respite" trip so I missed that I Love You post. Absolutely not should a teacher EVER write on a child's paper anything other than positive comments pertaining to the work or suggestions to improve the work. Have I ever said I Love You to a student....no, but I have said,"Me too." after they said it to me. This was before RAD came into my life. When one of the two children recently adopted (like a month before) from Kazakhstan started making such comments to me, my reply changed to,"Sweetie, your love is for your Mama and Papa and your brother but I am so glad that you are happy to be in my class. I am so happy that you are here too."Jerihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02134691284657706068noreply@blogger.com