I let go of gotcha days. Maybe they will make a come back later. They are unsettling to my kid with RAD and no one noticed when we did not do them.
Yesterday was Miss Fabulous 5 year anniversary as a loo loo crew member.
She had a major blow out Thursday evening. But didn't blow out again through out the weekend. In fact she did great Sunday and that was her gotcha day. She has never done well on her gotcha day, accept she did.
She and I spent 40 minutes in a therapeutic talk Friday about her blow out Thursday. We talked about what was really bothering her. She doesn't like it when we get down to the nitty gritty. She feels outed and she doesn't like that. Understandable. But she can't work through what she won't admit to. So we are working on that. It's going pretty well. In the past she would have tantrumed and raged to avoid the talk. After a big bad battle it would have avoided the talk, but not any more. Now after the rage we go back to the talk. So at least some of the time she is skipping the rage. Progress.
She is doing better than ever in school. Her beginning of the year assessment last year was "low intermediate" and "beginner" scores which are as low as they go. This year she scored "high intermediate" on everything which included reading, writing and listening skills. I gave it to her and told her she should be proud that her scores actually showed how smart she is this year.
But it seems that since she is doing better than ever at school we are getting more mess at home. As Jeri said, we should be flattered that she is comfortable enough to release her anger on us. I am working on it. As her behavior therapist stated "she is comfortable enough with you all to hurt you." Well we are working on that too.
Keep moving forward...
Showing posts with label Gotcha Days. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Gotcha Days. Show all posts
Monday, September 20, 2010
Saturday, October 31, 2009
Gotcha Day #6, Mr. C - 10-30-09
Updated with Montage
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Friday was Mr. C's gotcha day - #6. He is 7 years old now and he is an amazing person! We are so thrilled that he is our son. His photo montage is in the works and I hope to post that later today but until then here are a few pictures of the day. His gifts for the day were a special book that Mommy chose called 'I love you so ...' by Marianne Richmond, a mini beanie baby penguin that his sister has and that he longed for (I found one second hand, yes!), and brand new sneakers. Most of all Mama made his special gotcha day cake and cup cakes.
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Friday was Mr. C's gotcha day - #6. He is 7 years old now and he is an amazing person! We are so thrilled that he is our son. His photo montage is in the works and I hope to post that later today but until then here are a few pictures of the day. His gifts for the day were a special book that Mommy chose called 'I love you so ...' by Marianne Richmond, a mini beanie baby penguin that his sister has and that he longed for (I found one second hand, yes!), and brand new sneakers. Most of all Mama made his special gotcha day cake and cup cakes.
Sunday, September 20, 2009
Saturday, July 11, 2009
Camp Mom - Week 6
Lil Bro got this balloon on Gotcha Day
Mr. Carter and Big Sis gated Lil Bro
out of a space so that he would not
continue to mess up their game.
Lil Bro and I made this cake for
his Gotcha Day. Messy looking but
good tasting!
Lil Bro liked the cake!
Snaggle Toothed Mr. Carter Pic with Cat on Table!
Honestly who takes a picture of the
cat on the table?
Missing Tooth Pic
Lil Bro Pic
Dog Pic
additionally:
went to Library (this has become a Wednesday regular)
went to the park
played in the pool
played in the house
cleaned up the house
Thursday, July 9, 2009
Friday, October 31, 2008
Thursday 10-30-08 Gotcha day
Today is Carter's 5 year anniversary gotcha day! 5 years ago Dad and I were traveling through the mountains of Russia to get our boy out of the baby jail. Hard to believe he is 6 years old.
Well ... on to the daily journal. Wish it could be all positive on such a special day but then it wouldn't really be loo-loo land. E and I had a good lazy day together. We were having a bit of a cold snap still and since he is 2 and at the age where he doesn't always want all his clothes on he opted to put Sponge Bob on in his room and crawl in bed under the covers. What a cool kid!
M had a good morning and was very pleasant and cooperative. V and C did okay after early morning grumps. Everyone got to school on time. This afternoon is V's chorus practice and so I take the other 3 kids to the park while we wait. Unfortunately a routine we will have to change. Miss M is consistently blowing lose at the park and then refusing to get in the car seat. I have to pick V up at 3:30 so I don't have all the time I need to let the fit play out.
I called for back up but neither Nan or Dad could leave the job. Called my friend who will help during a rage and could not get her at home. So I had Vivian go and get C's pre-school teacher who has special training for such behavior. She came to help. The teacher for the autistic kids is a BIG lady and she came and offered to put M in her seat. I said well we could do that but I can't keep her there once you put her in and then I will have to deal with her on my own with the other kids. We all decided that won't work. C's teacher from last year offered for me to walk away and let her deal with M. I said "okay." M spent a while yelling "I want Mommy." But she calmed down after that and let Mrs. Jennifer work with her. She got in the seat and then we headed home.
She fell asleep in the car and when we got home was in a very down mood. Understandable after all that but she will just as easily seem totally unaffected by the whole experience. She also cut her clothes at school. The teacher did not notice.
M and I had some time together while I made dinner and I asked her "so what were you feeling when you cut your clothes?" She said "angry." I asked why was she angry and she said she didn't know. I said were you just getting some big feelings and you didn't know why? And she said yes. I suggested she could tell the teacher that she needed help with her big feelings instead of cutting her clothes and she said she would be embarrassed to. I said okay and left it at that.
The child study team is getting together regarding M and the physician sheet that her Psychiatrist filled out. It explains that she needs to be seated near the teacher but they aren't doing that as yet. When the head of the child study team spoke with M's teacher she said she did not see a need in the classroom at this time for intervention although she had experienced M's rages on 2 different occasions, but not during class. We are all very grateful that M is able to keep it together right now in class but the fact that she got into an altercation last week with another student and has cut her clothes with sissors in class 3 different times in the last month indicates to me that we all may need to be prepared for a time when M may not be able to hold it together in class.
Well ... on to the daily journal. Wish it could be all positive on such a special day but then it wouldn't really be loo-loo land. E and I had a good lazy day together. We were having a bit of a cold snap still and since he is 2 and at the age where he doesn't always want all his clothes on he opted to put Sponge Bob on in his room and crawl in bed under the covers. What a cool kid!
M had a good morning and was very pleasant and cooperative. V and C did okay after early morning grumps. Everyone got to school on time. This afternoon is V's chorus practice and so I take the other 3 kids to the park while we wait. Unfortunately a routine we will have to change. Miss M is consistently blowing lose at the park and then refusing to get in the car seat. I have to pick V up at 3:30 so I don't have all the time I need to let the fit play out.
I called for back up but neither Nan or Dad could leave the job. Called my friend who will help during a rage and could not get her at home. So I had Vivian go and get C's pre-school teacher who has special training for such behavior. She came to help. The teacher for the autistic kids is a BIG lady and she came and offered to put M in her seat. I said well we could do that but I can't keep her there once you put her in and then I will have to deal with her on my own with the other kids. We all decided that won't work. C's teacher from last year offered for me to walk away and let her deal with M. I said "okay." M spent a while yelling "I want Mommy." But she calmed down after that and let Mrs. Jennifer work with her. She got in the seat and then we headed home.
She fell asleep in the car and when we got home was in a very down mood. Understandable after all that but she will just as easily seem totally unaffected by the whole experience. She also cut her clothes at school. The teacher did not notice.
M and I had some time together while I made dinner and I asked her "so what were you feeling when you cut your clothes?" She said "angry." I asked why was she angry and she said she didn't know. I said were you just getting some big feelings and you didn't know why? And she said yes. I suggested she could tell the teacher that she needed help with her big feelings instead of cutting her clothes and she said she would be embarrassed to. I said okay and left it at that.
The child study team is getting together regarding M and the physician sheet that her Psychiatrist filled out. It explains that she needs to be seated near the teacher but they aren't doing that as yet. When the head of the child study team spoke with M's teacher she said she did not see a need in the classroom at this time for intervention although she had experienced M's rages on 2 different occasions, but not during class. We are all very grateful that M is able to keep it together right now in class but the fact that she got into an altercation last week with another student and has cut her clothes with sissors in class 3 different times in the last month indicates to me that we all may need to be prepared for a time when M may not be able to hold it together in class.
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